Meeting with the EX
I met with the husband yesterday we got coffee and talked. What he wanted was absoultion of the wrongs he did to me. He wanted to discuss in detail all the bad things he did as he is in therapy to fix himself up. I provided specific examples of he worst behaviour so he could discuss them with his therapist.
Here's a little exerpt from out conversation.
Him "I know I was jealous but I can't think of any specific examples"
Me " What about the time you thought I was sleeping with the neighbour man, the one on welfare who lived with his mom and had assorted children vistiting him, because he knew out apartment was drafty as he used to hang out with the people who lived there before us"
Him "oh yeah"
Me " What about the toothpaste on the bed story? That one gets a laugh everytime I tell it."
Him " I don't remember"
Me " You came home and went upstairs to change, Then you were bellowing my name so I ran up to see what was wrong and you were pointing to a white spot on the dark sheets at the end of the bed screaming what the hell is this, we don't have sex at the end of the bed. I was confused then remember that the phone had rung while I was brushing my teeth and I laid my toothbrush down to answer it. You screamed and yelled how it didn't look like toothpaste, you fume and tried to sniff the spot, then packed your shit cause you were leaving"
Him "oh yeah that's a pretty embarrasing picture"
Me " Those are just a few of the funny ones"
The whole meeting was pretty much like this. I told him to get over it and it was nice that he realized he was an asshole and now he could move on and not repeat the same mistakes. I think he was hoping for more. I was kind of cool towards him. I told him not to feel bad about me that I accepted his apology and I might be screwed up but that I'm sure it will fade in time.
He didn't mention the date again or try to make any future plans for seeing me so I guess he realized that you can't turn back the clock.
I didn't cry or shout or anything really. I guess I have moved on cause when I saw him I really felt nothing other than uncomfortable and found myself thinking how he needed a haircut. I hope he gets through all of this alright but if he could refrain from knocking at my door for help I would appreciate it.
Here's a little exerpt from out conversation.
Him "I know I was jealous but I can't think of any specific examples"
Me " What about the time you thought I was sleeping with the neighbour man, the one on welfare who lived with his mom and had assorted children vistiting him, because he knew out apartment was drafty as he used to hang out with the people who lived there before us"
Him "oh yeah"
Me " What about the toothpaste on the bed story? That one gets a laugh everytime I tell it."
Him " I don't remember"
Me " You came home and went upstairs to change, Then you were bellowing my name so I ran up to see what was wrong and you were pointing to a white spot on the dark sheets at the end of the bed screaming what the hell is this, we don't have sex at the end of the bed. I was confused then remember that the phone had rung while I was brushing my teeth and I laid my toothbrush down to answer it. You screamed and yelled how it didn't look like toothpaste, you fume and tried to sniff the spot, then packed your shit cause you were leaving"
Him "oh yeah that's a pretty embarrasing picture"
Me " Those are just a few of the funny ones"
The whole meeting was pretty much like this. I told him to get over it and it was nice that he realized he was an asshole and now he could move on and not repeat the same mistakes. I think he was hoping for more. I was kind of cool towards him. I told him not to feel bad about me that I accepted his apology and I might be screwed up but that I'm sure it will fade in time.
He didn't mention the date again or try to make any future plans for seeing me so I guess he realized that you can't turn back the clock.
I didn't cry or shout or anything really. I guess I have moved on cause when I saw him I really felt nothing other than uncomfortable and found myself thinking how he needed a haircut. I hope he gets through all of this alright but if he could refrain from knocking at my door for help I would appreciate it.
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